In the first 3 parts of this series, we plunged the depths of the meanings behind the first 9 of 29 questions (that hopefully you’ve already answered – see Your Personal Responsibility In Cleaning God’s House – Part 2) designed to see the pattern of life you live out that poses a barrier to your communion with God. Let’s continue…
10. Describe what you feel the future holds for you.
Are you waiting for a future where you finally get it all together? Guess what? No one ever gets it all together. You position yourself to get it together by walking in God’s ways. He brings you all together:
…He Who began a good work in you will continue until the day of Jesus Christ [right up to the time of His return], developing [that good work] and perfecting and bringing it to full completion in you. Phil. 1:6 AMP
We are a work in progress. Life on Earth is a training ground. There is no goal. LIFE IS THE GOAL! It’s a journey where we put one spirit-led foot in front of the other until our Savior takes us home.
If you are waiting for any kind of a future, you are missing out on life because it only happens in the present moment – not in some nebulous future.
Waiting for a happy future? Doesn’t exist. Happiness comes from engaging in the present, making the decision to be happy regardless of your circumstances.
Looking for love and acceptance in the future? God gave you those things the moment He thought you into being. (Eph. 1:4) Regardless of what may have tarnished your past, God has redeemed you from it through the cleansing blood of His Son.
11. What meaning have you brought to life?
Do you wake each day with gratitude and an exuberant expectancy, or do you rise with wrenched guts and tears threatening to burst forth? If it is the former, you are living consciously, engaged in healing, giving and loving. If the latter, you’re living a life enmeshed with the meanings of the wounded child within. Don’t punish yourself for that. You are courageously working in this series so that the latter becomes the former. You deserve great love and compassion for your efforts.
12. Are you dissatisfied with life?
Your satisfaction or dissatisfaction with your life hinge upon the meaning(s) you bring to your life. That is not to downplay those real events in your life that unhinged you and brought real feelings of grief, pain, misery, disappointment or shame. Yet regardless of the reality or lack of it in your ‘events,’ it is the meanings that you create around them that determine your view of life and how you live it.
Thus, we can go to meditation and remind ourselves that nothing earthly is permanent. We snoop into our real or unreal roots (meanings) of our vision of life and our reactions to it, let them wash over us and bury them – knowing that we can construct new truth-based meanings of life that empower us to heal.
All situations have something to teach us. When we commit to learning what it is instead of running, our unworkable ‘stuff’ will be revealed and we can let that go. If, during our meditative examination, we think we’ve reached our limits and are standing on the edge of a frightful abyss, we can stop and breathe and look at where that false belief stems from. If we jump, we’ll land on solid ground in the present moment with one more fear behind us.
But this can only happen if we keep our eyes wide open in the presence of our vexation and let go of any efforts of trying to control the world. ‘Letting go’ allows us to be free to face life without fear. When we practice living at peace instead of indulging in drama and our responsive knee-jerk reactions, life is manageable.
Instead of sinking into suffering if we experience pain, we can offer ourselves love, compassion and kindness. If we feel loss, we can look at why we feel the need to cling by examining the meanings that motivate us to do that – our desires, aggressions and denials. We can see them for the conditioned lies that they are and let them go.
Once we learn the lesson that life is presenting, it will stop haunting us. Often, those lessons push our ‘hot buttons.’ This is a wonderful opportunity to learn why those hot buttons exist – a time to disqualify and eliminate more baseless beliefs. We can become walking pillars of peace in a world of pandemonium.
Other than our relationship with God and ourselves, all things come and go. They’re all on loan to us. So we can’t really lose anything; it wasn’t ours to begin with. Thus, we want to cherish our loved ones in the present moment, and tap into their love-print in our heart when they are not. We are never alone and true love never dies.
Change is not loss but opportunity for new possibilities.
13. What makes you angry?
The answer is simple. It is the same things that make you afraid. (See part 3 of this series.) You’ve already learned that anger kills (see Characteristics Of A Life When God Is Absent – Part 3). When you feel it manifest within you, stop and breathe, look at what you are listening to in your head and how you are also getting angry with yourself. Defuse and replace the meanings behind that commotion and practice forgiveness and acceptance for both you and the object of your anger.
14. What does everyone think about you?
15. What do you think is wrong with you?
16. Why don’t you accept yourself?
17. What secrets are you keeping?
18. What lies do you tell?
The answers to all of these questions have the same roots. They stem from the things you don’t accept about yourself and the lies you tell in an attempt to conceal them. (By the way, you really don’t know what anybody thinks of you.)
The ‘unacceptable things’ are either something you’ve done in the past that you’ve attached a negative meaning to, or a negative belief you took on as a child. The past cannot be changed. While you are examining your answers to these questions, it’s a good time to go to God for forgiveness:
He has not dealt with us according to our sins, nor punished us according to our iniquities. For as the heavens are high above the earth, so great is His mercy towards those who fear Him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us. Ps. 103:10 – 12. NKJV
So let up on yourself. Look deep at any belief you may harbor that opposes your perfection and realize it is a lie…
We’re heading for the home stretch. Next time.
Goodnight and God bless.