Discovering The Pattern That Separates You From God

Because being connected to God is a matter of life or death – affecting both your earthly quality of life and your eternal outcome, we’ve spent the past 4 1/2 months looking extensively at what threatens that connection.

The threat begins in childhood, when you are brainwashed by unconscious parents and peers and malevolent media and government institutions in all forms – which do their best to instill the notion that the ways of the world are superior to the ways of God. Innately you know that is not true, but you’re punished if you don’t conform. So you create a voice in your head to warn you when you’re out of line, so that you don’t get rejected. Yet that voice soon aligns with those who do the punishing, and you wind up being attacked on all sides if you choose to live by the truth.

Most people would rather be accepted than rejected; so they try to mold themselves into false images in order to try to please the opinions of others. But it’s a dissatisfying life, a life where they make no place for God – one of suffering, self-rejection, fear, anger and where they have an inability to be present, to communicate, or relate.

This godless life is the total opposite of what God has planned for His children. We live this life of misery when we live it in our uniquely nuanced pattern of the ways of the world. We must dissect this pattern in order to free us from it, so that we can reconnect with our Creator through Christ. And that’s exactly what we’ve begun doing in the last two posts: Your Personal Responsibility In Cleaning God’s House.

We first created a ‘Voice Journal,’ to record everything that voice (ego) in our heads said to us for an entire week – including how each declaration affected us. Then we examined ways in which we could neutralize both the effects and the voice. Secondly, we created a ‘Discovery Journal’: a series of 29 powerful questions that would give us a basis for seeing how we ‘do’ life and who we are ‘being’ when we live it.

If we can see how we think and act, we can understand why our pattern of living brings us the life we have and how we can replace that pattern with God’s strategies. Today, we’ll examine the answers to those questions in detail. Obviously, you have certain unique distinctions to your answers (names, places, dates, etc.), but how you were affected, has universal overtones. Let’s dig in:

(If you’ve not answered these questions, you are not committed to having your life change; and the value of just reading these analyses will be diminished greatly. (I urge you to participate.)

1. What is it about other people’s behavior that bothers you?

Is it ungratefulness, jealousy, anger, hatefulness, or indifference? Notice what kind of hurt, resistance, or emotions you attach to these behaviors. Look to see if you practice these behaviors as well. (Try writing out sentences identifying what you don’t like when ‘so and so’ does _____. Then replace ‘so and so’s name with yours, and see how that fits.) We tend to reject in others what we don’t like in ourselves.

Those people who irritate us can be some of our greatest teachers with regards to recognizing our own denial and avoidance strategies. Ask yourself why you chose to have these conflicts in your life. Look at what you can learn from them. Examine what beliefs you may have that incubate these experiences. Look at when you have engaged in the same behavior. Ask why you did it (or still do it) and what your behavior has cost you. Forgive yourself and change course.

Hold those people with the ‘abhorrent’ behaviors in loving and compassionate thoughts, because they have suffered equally as you’ve suffered – wrapped up in their own pain. What they did was not personal. Forgive them so that you don’t carry the toxicity of judgment in your heart.

Make a list of the things that you appreciate about those people and tell them! When you love, appreciate, show kindness, and accept them, you will receive the same. Forget about the past, and see them as if you’re meeting them for the first time. Drop all of your previous expectations.

Commit to breaking down any barriers between you and other people. Give up the need to be ‘right’ so that you can communicate with greater clarity. Be open to working through any hurts together.

If one member suffers, all suffer together… 1 Cor. 12:26 ESV

Be aware that even when we are doing our best to heal ourselves, sometimes other people’s ‘stuff’ will trigger our ‘stuff.’ Instead of allowing it to manifest, look at that encounter as an opportunity to rise to a new level of understanding and compassion.
(When we blame others, we’re only trying to protect our wounds.) We can meditate on those wounds until we understand the truth about them, so that healing takes place.)

Is anyone among you suffering? Let him pray. James 5:13 NKJV

Ask yourself, ‘Why am I hurt? What meaning did I bring to this event? What old hurt is being triggered? Why do I choose ‘being hurt’ as my response? What does it cost me to keep reliving it? What would my life look like if I recognized that my old hurt is no longer valid?’ Choose to be consciously present instead of running when your old hurts show up. When you see how you do suffering and what that feels like, you can gain a greater compassion for everyone else who does suffering.

Avoiding suffering only guarantees its persistence…

2. What keeps you from being happy?

The answer in a nutshell – is you. Your unhappiness stems from your obsession with your Life Story that you continuously live in and by, making yourself a victim, declaring that you are powerless, and waiting for someone or something to come along and save you.

How could you possibly be happy when you don’t give yourself any love, compassion, kindness or respect? As a victim, you steep in your dissatisfaction with yourself, others and even life itself. You punish yourself for flaws that you’ve never had. Finally, you place a litany of impossible conditions in front of you that have to be met before you think you can be happy.

Go into meditation and subject your related thoughts to inquisition: ‘When did I formulate these thoughts and why? Are they really true? What are these beliefs costing me? What would my life be like if I didn’t have them?’ You have to change your thinking!

Put your attention on happy thoughts. Happiness can be yours the instant that you choose it – in any moment. But first, you must take responsibility for where you are now in life and for the fact that you are not experiencing it. Ask yourself, ‘Where am I. How did I get to this point? What can I learn from this? What is possible?’

You must be committed to living in the present moment.The past is gone; the future is unknowable. Happiness only lives in the present. Put up signs to remind you to keep choosing happiness. Take a risk and jump into the present moment. It’s the only one you have. It just might be glorious. If it’s not, there’s always the next moment. That’s the beauty of change.

Reach down inside of yourself and touch that child within you who’s still stuck in his or her past hurts, and give yourself unconditional love and acceptance – disarming those hurtful events. Shower yourself with kindness and respect and know that you deserve it all. There is nothing wrong with you. Never was. You don’t ever deserve to be punished. Forgive yourself for not loving you and commit to do otherwise. Be your own best friend and lover.

Commit to living in reality – seeing what is real and living by the truth (God). There is no happiness in wanting life to be what it is not, or trying to live by any other lie. Stay grounded in things born out of love.

You were born complete and whole. Bolster you love by sharing yourself. With love comes extreme happiness…

Go your way, eat your bread with joy, and drink your wine with a merry heart [if you are righteous, wise, and in the hands of God], for God has already accepted your works. Eccl. 9:7 AMP

In the day of prosperity be happy, but in the day of adversity consider – God has made the one as well as the other… Eccl. 7;14 NASB

Blessed (happy, to be envied) is he who has no reason to judge himself for what he approves [who does not convict himself by what he chooses to do]. Rm. 14:22 AMP

If you live by the truth, (living by God’s ways and realizing His forgiveness when you slip) God does not convict you. And if He doesn’t, what right have you to do so? As you can see, there is not a single day that happiness shouldn’t abound in you.

Are you feeling your spirit begin to lighten up yet? More to come…
Goodnight and God bless.

Characteristics Of A Life When God Is Absent – Part 2

This is the seventh in a series of posts beginning with How The Devil Stole Your Soul, where we’ve looked at how the thoughts you entertain in your head are what breaks your connection with God and renders Him absent.

These are a string of thoughts you learned as a child, handed down to you by unconscious parents and others in your lives, as well as malevolent governments, media and the branches of both. The outcome of these destructive thoughts is one where most people have very little regard for who they think they are and they become afraid of the world around them. In such a case, people who don’t lean on God (because they have estranged Him) take on certain characteristics. We spoke of the first of these last time: Suspended Animation.

It is a state one lives when they are trapped in their past and afraid of their future, never having a life because they cannot be in present time, which is where real life happens…

Characteristic #2: Panic

You rarely see little children running in abject panic. It has to be indoctrinated into them by parents, peers, schools, governments and their media lackeys – all of which are a reflection of that fear-spewing voice in their heads. This ‘fear mindset’ is the disease of an anxious world.

What are these children afraid of? They’re frightened of same things that scare the adults, because they cling to those lessons from childhood. It’s all about the child having come to a conclusion that he or she is inadequate, they will be punished or rejected for that inadequacy, and that makes their world a dangerous place.

Fear is not real; it’s not a solid thing. It is an emotional mechanism for avoiding pain – for avoiding things that might happen. It does not protect you. Indeed, prolonged exposure to fear leads to insomnia, ulcers, high blood pressure, heart attacks, strokes and cancer.

We end up with a child (who becomes an adult) who avoids the unknown, so that they will not have to face the punishment that would follow some failure they might commit – running through life in a near state of panic, trying not to make mistakes, striving to be perfect. Should they make a mistake, the voice in their head will beat them with it as long as they allow it.

Is any of this congruent with the ways of God?

The fear of man brings a snare, but whoever leans on, trusts in, and puts his confidence in the Lord is safe and set on high. Pr. 29:25 AMP

“Do not be afraid…I am your shield, your exceedingly great reward.” Gn. 15:1 NKJV

‘I shall also grant peace in the land, so that you may lie down with no one making you tremble.’ Lv. 26:6 NASB

I sought the LORD, and He answered me, and delivered me from all my fears. Ps. 34:4 NASB

When I am afraid, I will put my trust in You. In God, whose word I praise, in God I have put my trust; I shall not be afraid. What can mere man do to me? Ps. 56:3, 4. NASB

Yes, though I walk through the [deep, sunless] valley of the shadow of death, I will fear or dread no evil, for You are with me; Your rod [to protect] and Your staff [to guide], they comfort me. Ps. 23:4 AMP

The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life; of whom shall I be afraid? Ps. 27:1 ESV

Little children, you are of God [you belong to Him] and have already defeated and overcome them [the agents of the antichrist], because He Who lives in you is greater (mightier) than he who is in the world. 1 Jn. 4:4 AMP

Well, that looks like a lot of ‘no’ doesn’t it? God delivers you from what fears? All fears. He is your shield. He protects you from all people, and even from death itself. What about that awful voice in your head? It was patterned after the voice that lied to Adam and Eve – the original antichrist. Yep! God put Christ within you and has got that chatterbox beat as well.

But, the person who has been conditioned, who feels so bad about themselves and is sure that God has rejected them, doesn’t know any of this. They only know fear.

There are three basic fears: the fear of death (if you believed in God you would not fear death): “Behold the tabernacle of God is with men, and He will dwell with them, and they shall be His people. God Himself will be with them and be their God. And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying.” Rv. 21:3, 4. NKJV

The fear of abandonment (which comes from believing that you are unlovable, unacceptable, and must find your meaning in life from others): And the LORD, He is the One who goes before you, He will not leave you nor forsake you; do not fear nor be dismayed.” Dt. 31:8 NKJV

Finally, we have the fear of impermanence (change). Yet the only thing life guarantees is change. Internally, we all know that, but it’s unnerving for most people because they want to know what’s going to happen next. They want things to stay the same so they can feel that they have some semblance of control over life.

“For I am the LORD, I do not change;” Mal. 3:6 NKJV

The mind of man plans his way, but the LORD directs his steps. Pr. 16:9 NASB

Do not [earnestly] remember the former things; neither consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing! Is. 43:18, 19. AMP

God is the only unchangeable force in this universe. We can count on what He will do as we walk by His word. However, we can make all the plans we want, but if they don’t jive with His plans, God’s going to try to nudge you into a new way. It is your ‘absent-minded’ wanderings that cause Him to change up things (for your good). Change is good because it means we have a plethora of new possibilities to look forward to.

But hey, we’re talking about people who are blind to all of this – people who are obsessed with trying to get everything ‘right’ and afraid of what will happen if they don’t. They become chameleons trying to mold themselves into what they think others want them to be.

Ultimately, they are afraid to decide on any options and become paralyzed – afraid to do and afraid to be, running from the meanings they’ve attached to everything. They’re running from fear, not realizing that they are generating it.

We scramble from the present moment and hide from the next one because they are unknowns. Thus, we lose any chance to be happy because we’re too busy struggling to bring all our conditions together that must be met for that perfect moment that never comes.

We react to life instead of evaluating it, so we never experience the reality of what it is that we are afraid of. What we are afraid of is being ourselves; and there can be no life without fear if we are afraid to express our true selves. We believe the lies the voice in our head tells us – the one who invalidates our feelings and then eviscerates us for having them. Yet all of this abuse pales in comparison to what we heap upon our own heads.

We think there is some sort of secret to figuring life out; sure that everyone else knows what it is. Life presents itself as it is, yet we refuse to accept it because it’s not the way we want it. We keep searching for safety but the only way to find that is to live life less. Not a good thing.

Everyone is so afraid that they’ll never get it all together. Guess what? NOBODY DOES! We are all a work in progress.

Fear needs to be uprooted so that we can make conscious decisions. Would someone consciously decide to hurt themselves and others, invite suffering, and believe that they are unlovable? Of course not!

You only do those things because you are afraid – only because you forgot your perfection…
Goodnight and God bless.