Letting God’s Creation Shine

(Note: You may wonder what I’m talking about if you haven’t been following along for the last 6 months as we’ve been exploring the enemy in our head. I sincerely invite you to do so.)

Most of God’s creations shine – reflecting the glory of God just by being what they were created to be. They are naturally luminous. However, God’s greatest creation, Man, unconsciously covers him or her self with layers of dark lies that smother the Divine Light.

But what if we didn’t? What if we looked at our unconscious automatic ways of acting and thinking, and chose to stop doing them? Then, we could climb out of our frenzied fear-filled actions and be free of the collateral damage that is the fruit of them…

God equipped us from birth with everything we need to live a successful life. We started out whole and our path was placed in front of us:

For you formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You for I am fearfully and wonderfully made…Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book, they all were written, the days fashioned for me, when as yet there were none of them. Ps. 139:13, 14 & 16. NKJV

We may have done some flawed thinking and committed some unsound actions, but who we are has always been perfect, good enough and lovable. What we need to do is to stop doing the things that keep us from living our life in a perfect fashion. Those ‘things’ are the ways that take us out of the present moment – that we do in an effort to control life and eliminate change (impossible) in a relentless quest to find security.

We’ve learned that life cannot be controlled and that change is the only thing it guarantees. So, it makes absolutely no sense to keep waging this un-winnable war that saps our very essence. Worse, our efforts leave us a sense of helpless and unworthiness, that we try to hide by covering ourselves with some false personality – a mask that we hope others will find acceptable.

Yet God created us to be far more than ‘acceptable’ just the way we are:

Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you?…For God’s temple is holy and you are that temple. 1 Cor. 3:16, 17. ESV

As a true extension of God, we can’t be anything but perfect. When we accept Christ into our hearts, we the temple, become holy, which means ‘set apart, dedicated to sacred purposes, morally pure’ and ‘sinless.’ There is nothing that needs improvement and no reason to vie for acceptance and approval from others. We already have those things from the Source.

Unfortunately, there are many who become terrified at the thought of doing the only thing that will solve their dilemma – that is, to sit still with life and embrace all the possibilities of the present moment. Why do they do that? It’s because they formed an opinion (most likely in childhood) where they tell themselves that they don’t have what it takes to survive life.

Yet living an extraordinary life is not about what you have, it’s about letting go – letting go of your false self, your self-condemnation, and the past that no longer exists, i.e. all your patterns of living life (with anger, fear, prejudice, lust and shame, etc.) that cause you to run for your mask.

What imprisons you is not life, it’s the war that you have going on in your head.

When you don’t have to be in control, you will possess infinite freedom. Freedom comes when you stop and pay attention; and that’s where your tools come in handy: Sit still in meditation and watch the criticisms of the voice in your head cascade. See them for what they are (pathetic attempts at survival through domination and condemnation). Feel the wild emotions you conjure up in response – the pounding heart, the shortness of breath, the agony of fear, anger and shame. Watch how your responses build in sequence and see what triggers each one.

Face these uncomfortable feelings and inquire: ‘Are these thoughts true?’ NOT! The truth is that we are up against our own unworkable decisions, based upon false meanings. We can dismantle those root patterns of our misery and find out why we committed them by asking more questions: ‘What pain have I been suppressing? What fears am I running from? Why have I believed what I believe?’

Be patient and watch with suspended belief. Look for any real validity. Notice but refuse to engage with lies that try to justify themselves or try to validate any self-justification. Only love-related thoughts are based in truth. Entertain and live by those.

You may be frightened when you begin this wake-up process because heretofore you have believed that your mask (self-image) is real; but it isn’t, and most people see through it anyway.

Put your faith in the magnificence of who you really are – a unique image of God. What have you got to lose? When you expose the lies that made you think you had to be a chameleon, you’ll burn that mask.

What we are burning off is the dross of the world that contaminated us; and we are turning our eyes upon God and offering our willingness to be reclaimed. It’s an offer God promises to fill:

And all of us, as with unveiled face, [because we] continued to behold [in the Word of God] as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are constantly being transfigured into His very own image in ever increasing splendor and from one degree of glory to another; [for this comes] from the Lord [Who is] the Spirit. 2 Cor. 3:18 AMP

…He Who began a good work in you will continue until the day of Jesus Christ [right up to the time of His return], developing [that good work] and perfecting it to full completion in you. Phil. 1:6 AMP

When we let go of our self-condemnation, we become the recipients of God’s mercy. We are a creation of His love. There is nothing we could have done or have had done to us that would ever make us unlovable in His eyes. And when we love and accept ourselves, the darkness within us dies.

As a child, there was no way we could have processed, let alone coped with, the wiles of the enemy through his generational assault. All we deserve is compassion and love…

Commit to uncover all the ways you unconsciously do life instead of live it: procrastinating, lying, denying, and wearing guilt and shame. Then, stop doing!

However, be on the alert for that voice in your head. It won’t go down without a fight; but you can find victory if you refuse to engage with it, because it feeds off of your life.

Very soon after you created it, it told you that you needed it to take care of you. Ask yourself, ‘Has that ever been true?’ and ‘How has that worked out for me?’

The voice will chastise you for your decision to become conscious. It will assure you that you’ll fail. It wants you miserable. Feel that experience, seeing how you’ve been a partner in your own demise. Turn your back on that impotent ghost and re-commit to living from your spirit.

You deserve a love-filled life. It’s your birthright. You don’t need to earn it. Just open yourself up, tap into the love you have inside, and choose to receive it. Otherwise, life just keeps passing you by.

You deserve everything life has to offer. You were put here to experience it all. You only have to accept its availability.

You do not need anyone’s approval for being yourself. Honor the unique creation of love that God made you. You don’t need fixing. You don’t deserve punishment for past deeds. If you struggled with anything, if just meant that you had an issue you had difficulty with – not that there was anything wrong with you. Bring all of the pain that you have borne to Christ for His healing. You only have to let that ‘good person’ that you already are, step away from living behind the mask.

Select your thoughts; think of desirable outcomes. You get what you focus on. You’ve already seen your power in the manifestation of your ‘old’ life; thus, you must also have the power to create something new.

Think in completeness; e.g. ‘I am peaceful,’ not ‘I’m somewhat peaceful.’ The voice will use that, asking you, ‘A little peaceful compared to what?’ Then the ‘what’ becomes your focus.

Bring each day into focus by asking, ‘I have _____ in my life because…’ and ‘I don’t have ____ in my life because…’ These questions are for finding out the emotional charge you have on each, so that you can direct your day accordingly.

Ask uplifting questions: ‘How can I share myself with others today? How can I answer with total love? How does God want me to serve Him? Where do I want my focus?’

If we support ourselves 100%, it won’t matter what others do. There is a ‘compassion poverty’ on this planet. We look to ourselves for compassion, bathe in it, and let the rest spill over onto others.

There is one thing you must actually practice to complete your love-transformation – forgiveness. In your old life, you’ve been passing judgment upon yourself and others for years. You must forgive, so that you can create the space for love.

Have you ever noticed how uncomfortable you feel around people you haven’t forgiven? It’s because they reflect to you things you haven’t forgiven yourself for.

Everyone is trying to scramble through life the best way they can. If they’ve offended you, it was most likely because they felt what they did was paramount for their protection. It is rarely personal.

If you felt rejected, most of the time that other person was busily engaged in their own cranial drama and just forgot you were there – not personal, not rejection.

Forgiveness heals – mentally and physically. It frees you up to live a life you don’t need to hide from, keeps the salt out of your wounds and liberates you from having an attitude that is fertile for committing loveless acts.

If you don’t want to forgive, take a focused look at the lack of justification behind your stance and drop it. It’s not about asking why you had that attitude, you probably won’t remember or lie about why you think you’re justified. It doesn’t solve anything. Look instead at what ‘not forgiving’ costs. The right direction will be clear.

‘Not forgiving’ makes you a victim (denying your experience) and prolongs your suffering. Feel the experience, get the lesson, forgive yourself and let it go. Forget about who did what, realizing that nothing in the past has any relevancy in the present moment.

You are new in every moment. There are no dues to pay, no suffering you must endure, or any ideal you have to meet. You just made it up. Once you are actively engaged in returning to your true self, you will find that you’re leaving the lies in your head behind and lifting the crush of judgment off of your heart – living the dream.

Oh, your mind will still chatter from time to time. Just notice it, recognize it as nothing more than ‘meaningless thinking,’ and its volume and your response to it will continue to diminish. THERE IS NOTHING THAT YOU CAN’T LET GO OF!

Be your own best friend. Let your spirit be your guide and your true self will provide all of the love, peace and joy that you need, and there will be plenty left over to give to everyone around you. I

t doesn’t matter what’s going on around you. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other on the path that you know brings happiness (God’s path). Pay attention. You are responsible for the life you live. Create your life lovingly.

God sees you pure for His sake. He makes you holy (through Christ) so that you can remain in His presence. He never meant for your life to be burdensome. When we sit still with Him, we can converse. When we come home to ourselves, our light will drive out all darkness and project the love of God in and around us.

So, after all this, I ask you, ‘What is a perfect self-image?’ Why, it’s having no self-image at all. You are an image of the Father. The only thing you’ve ever had to do was to become yourself. You are perfect in every way. When you come to love and accept yourself, your world will change. You don’t need an image. And really, why would you want to hide perfection behind a mask?

You were put here to shine…

Goodnight and God Bless.

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Discovering The Pattern That Separates You From God – Part 3

In the first two parts of this series, we looked at the meanings behind the first 4 of 29 questions designed to help you see the pattern of life you live that suppresses your spirit, which separates you from your Creator. Continuing on…

5. Who is in your life?

Who you choose to hang out with and whom you don’t, says a lot about you. Deep down, we all want to be surrounded with people who love and accept us for who we are. Yet we rarely reveal that true self to others, so we sabotage ourselves – settling only for those who are attracted to our masks.

We pick ‘safe people,’ people like us who won’t call us out on the unworkable strategies that constitute our pattern. Indeed, they are likely living by similar schemes. That way, everybody in the group can validate each others’ self-victimization. You can figure out how you are being by looking at your friends. If you see character flaws in them, you can rest assured they are the same flaws that you believe you have.

The solution is to let the real you out to play and see whom that attracts. (You’ll be pleasantly surprised.) You may certainly lose some of your present friends and maybe that’s not such a bad thing.

But you’re stuck with your family, yes? Consider that they might be easier to be around if you’d quit blaming them for how your life is turning out. They too have suffered from the same mind-bending as you have. Most of the time, they weren’t trying to be disagreeable; they were just acting out their own hurts. Not personal! They only want the same love and acceptance that you do. After you give love and acceptance to yourself, try giving it to them.

Your entire relationship may change – or not, if they cannot let go of there own survival strategies. Accept them for who they are and what they are able to give in the moment. Examine how you let them push your self-conditioned ‘hot buttons,’ and refuse to play on that level anymore. You will then know that you did your best. At the very least, your relationship to them will change for the better.

Let’s say that you did have someone who truly was malicious in your life but they are not in it anymore for whatever reason. You must still forgive them for your sake.

They did perpetrate a real hurt upon you, which led to sadness and eventually to suffering. You may even blame yourself for what they did, feeling hopeless, helpless, and guilty. This ‘frame of reference’ affects the way you look at everything.

Consider what kind of abuse could have caused your abuser to be so monstrous. Apply compassion and forgiveness when you realize what a great pain they must have suffered. Then you will be able to get on with the business of living. And forgive yourself. Maybe you aided your abuser, maybe not. Either way, you made the best choice at the time with the tools that you had to survive. If you could have seen a better way, you would have taken it.

If you still have abusive people in your life, forgive them as above but firm up your healthy boundaries so that they can no longer do you harm!

Accept that some people allow evil to fester within and steer clear of them. You’re not responsible; neither can you change them. You can pray for them.

Apply gobs of love and compassion for yourself if you see that you’ve allowed this evil to stay in your presence, because you were hoping that some scraps of love and acceptance would be thrown your way. (Look deep, because it’s probably how you relate to everyone.) In which case, you’ve been trying to recreate the perfect parent, friend or lover in that toxic relationship. Just acknowledge it and let that person in the mirror know that it is time to quit beating him or herself up.

When you give yourself that love and compassion, you will attract the kind of relationships that enhance those qualities in your life. As you recognize that only you are responsible for how your life turns out, you will be able to steer it on a much more loving course.

You’ll be able to see who and what anyone around you is being, which allows you to be free of their strategies, and stop making what they say or do personal. Your life will be cleansed of toxicity.

There was a sub-question to #5. It was ‘How do you want these people to change?’ If you examine your answers, you’ll see that most of the changes are the ones you want to see in yourself. Take them to your meditation, asking yourself: ‘Do I need to make these changes? Why have I been running strategies in opposition to them?’ Drop the strategies and the changes will happen by themselves.

6. Who have caused or continue to cause you pain?
7. Who have you chosen not to forgive?
8. Who are your enemies?

These 3 questions are a subset of question #5.

No one can cause you pain; you must choose to be hurt. (I’m not talking about those who actually abuse you physically or emotionally. However, if it is in your power to get away from them and you’ve not done so, you need to look deeply within, to find out what your ‘payoff’ is that you believe is worth the pain of remaining a victim.)

Meditate about the people who ‘hurt’ you. How do you feel when they are around you? Do those feelings have any validity in present tense? It’s very possible your feelings are rooted in past events and may not be related to this person at all.

If, after careful consideration, you still feel justified, look to see if you’ve earnestly tried to communicate what you feel to this person. It’s possible they have no clue about how you feel because they are too far into their own head.

Apply compassion. They too have been wounded in life. Perhaps you can help them see something they have not been conscious of.

For the despairing man there should be kindness from his friend… Job. 6:14 NASB

The people you have chosen not to forgive are those with whom you have a pain response. Ultimately, whatever they have done, you must forgive them as God forgives you. (Mk. 11:25) It doesn’t mean that you have to like them or have them in your proximity.

If you don’t forgive, you lock up hate and bitterness inside, and it eats away at you like a cancer. You will hate yourself for hating. Every human problem is rooted in a lack of love for oneself. You must expel any and all forms of hate from your heart.

Who are your enemies? They are the same people whom you perceive have caused you pain and that you’ve chosen not to forgive. You cannot afford to have enemies. Jesus told us to love our enemies. (Mt. 5:44) Begin by loving the person you’ve made the biggest enemy – yourself. Then, you can radiate that out of you. Acceptance always follows unconditional love. When you become your own best friend, your world will be filled with friends.

A friend loves at all times… Pr. 17:17 NKJV

9. What are you afraid of?

Writing down all the thoughts, emotions, and sensations that appear before your fear manifests, shows you how you do fear. Remember, most fear is based on imaginary future possibilities (that voice in your head invents) that are based on unresolved anxieties over your past.

Most people run from their fears in a frantic dash that actually keeps their fears in front of their face. That’s a sure way of guaranteeing a life full of misery. Let’s bring all our fears to our meditation:

Are you afraid someone will find out who you really are? That’s funny because most of us don’t know who we are. However, we can find out if we lovingly examine the construct of our masks. Every flaw that you think you have is a product of a broken relationship, out of which you desperately and courageously created a survival mechanism. You only had a wounded heart problem. There was no problem with your true self – never was, never will be.

All you’ve ever deserved was unconditional love and compassion. Give it to yourself. Be yourself. And then the opinions of others won’t matter, because they have as much value as farts in the wind.

Are you afraid of failure? Failure is only a step that brings you closer to success. Without failure, there is no forward progress. It doesn’t mean there is anything inherently wrong with you.

There is no perfect way of doing anything and you’ll have far more freedom without the bondage of perfectionism (which is only a way of protecting ourselves from failure by continuous tinkering instead of finishing).

Are you afraid of relationship? More fear of rejection. The only way to move beyond this fear is to form an unconditional love relationship with God and with you. Then everyone around you will want to be related to you.

Are you afraid of dying? Only having a relationship with God can cure that.

Are you afraid of the unknown (change)? Other than God, there is no constant. Change is the only guarantee that we have. In fact, if not for change (e.g. cellular growth and differentiation) there would be no life. No one knows what’s going to happen next. Even that what you think works best in your life will change.

Neither do we have any control over this universe. Freedom appears when we let that notion of ‘being in control’ go. (The only thing that can control your life is what you don’t know. That’s why it’s so imperative to stay conscious.)

We are all part of this changing universe, which makes every moment a gift with endless possibilities. We should be living in awe at this mysterious chaos, at this chance to take this love-filled journey that is always available to those who choose to remain awake and to let go – again and again.

Regardless of what you’re afraid of, those fears are only based upon unexamined beliefs from meanings that you made up as a child. Love and happiness cannot coexist with fear. I vote for letting the fear go. Look at your fears and the strategies you support them with, and see how they’ve kept you from living.

Commit to not running. Face those false fears and see the lies that they are constructed from. Let go, and live…

The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life; of whom shall I be afraid? Ps. 27:1 ESV

The LORD is on my side; I will not fear. What can man do to me? Ps. 118.6 NKJV

Next time: more of what inquiring minds need to know.
Good night and God bless.