We are, above all things, afraid of pain. Thus, we live in fear of an inevitable part of life. In so doing, we experience pain frequently – mostly due to our beliefs about pain. We believe that anything that challenges our beliefs is a source of pain. Yet pain does not come from the challenge, it comes from our resistance to it.
It is our resistance that causes us to run from perceived pain, which only adds greater anxiety – the disease of an anxious world that has had the voices in the heads of its inhabitants bleating relentlessly that the world is a dangerous place and punishment awaits those who do not navigate it the ‘right way’ (according to its own dictates).
We run from our fear, not realizing we are generating it, so we always find ourselves falling back into it.
Yes, you were taught to be afraid, but all those teachings were lies that gave your life the apparent toxicity you fear. Naturally, you built walls of defense (which became prison walls).
LIFE IS NEUTRAL. It is you who are mistakenly biased. You can wipe out those biases by inviting your fears into your meditations as they pop up. First, meditate upon the word of God so that you know just how much He has got your back:
The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The LORD is the defense of my life; whom shall I dread? Ps. 27:1 NASB
‘Do not tremble and do not be afraid; have I not long since announced it to you and declared it? And you are My witnesses. Is there any God besides Me, or is there any other Rock?’ Is. 44:8 NASB
Peace I leave with you; My [own] peace I now give and bequeath to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid. [Stop allowing yourselves to be agitated and disturbed; and do not permit yourselves to be fearful and intimidated and cowardly and unsettled.] Jn. 14:27 AMP
Fear not, for I am with you… Is. 43:5 NKJV
I sought the LORD, and He answered me, and delivered me from all my fears. Ps. 34:4 ESV
Do not be seized with alarm and struck with fear; only keep believing. Mk. 5:36 AMP
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and love and of a sound mind. 2 Tim. 1:7 NKJV
You are a hiding place for me; you preserve me from trouble; you surround me with shouts of deliverance. Ps. 32:7 ESV
For you have delivered my life from death, yes, and my feet from falling, that I may walk before God in the light of life and of the living. Ps. 56:13 AMP
[The Father] has delivered and drawn us to Himself out of the control of darkness and has transferred us into the kingdom of the Son of His love. Col. 1:13 AMP
“…for I am with you to save you and deliver you,” declares the LORD. Jer. 15:20 NASB
Are you feeling pumped up yet? You are invulnerable in God and Christ.
Now, we look at each fear in our meditation, see them for the lies that they are and replace those beliefs with new empowering convictions, which will change how you are being and will change your world. The only place fear lives is within you, but you can replace that fear with God:
There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. 1 Jn. 4:18 ESV
Just like we solve all our problems, we have to become aware of what we’ve been doing and choose to do different. We were masterful in the construction of our walls of defense. We cannot break them down with a simple frontal assault, because they were constructed to prevent that very thing. When you discover and neutralize your fears, you won’t have to hold up those walls any further.
Look first to your Life Story – the genesis of your fears. Always remember to bring kindness, love and compassion to yourself as you become aware of what you’ve been up to, without applying judgment. Take responsibility for your decisions and acts you’ve made in your blindness and remain vigorous in your inquiry for the reasons behind them. See if they contain any truth. When you take responsibility, you’re on your way to freedom.
Once you really see the falsity behind your heretofore-unquestioned beliefs, you’ll be able to uproot them, as well as tear down the rigid reality you built around them – that reality you’ve exhausted yourself trying to defend so that you won’t be made wrong.
Fear brings opportunity. If we sit with it and watch our reactions (all the ways we run), we can see how we might do the opposite and set ourselves free. All it takes is for you to remove the armor that you think is protecting you.
Trust your heart to compassionately and lovingly see you through. LIFE IS NOT SCARY. We make it scary because we are afraid of the unpredictability of life and of our inability to control it.
WE ARE NOT SCARY. Yet we believe we are because of our conviction that we are flawed in unacceptable ways – not!
Happiness will elude us as long as we hold onto the ways we do fear. Realize that our suffering is inseparable from the world’s suffering; apply unconditional acceptance, love, forgiveness and compassion to ourselves first, and then to all others. Stop the blaming, let go of the past and forget about the future.
Our lives only contain the problems that we say they have. Freedom from fear comes when we are willing to let go of what we think we know (giving up our false security), so that we can look at ourselves and our surroundings with new eyes. Whole new vistas will present themselves – filled with limitless opportunities that allow you to reinvent your possibilities from moment to moment.
Instead of fear, we can reframe our view of life to one that embraces this frenzied string of uncertainties and remain open to the wonder of the next surprise. And, if life were a flowing stream of surprises, why would you worry about problems when you could never plan for a solution? Guess what? Life is the solution!
We are all works in progress, so there is no reason to make space for the unworkable notions of shame or embarrassment that gives birth to so many fears.
Knowing that life is unpredictable, it follows that our time with others is unknowable. Doesn’t it then make sense to treasure everyone in every moment instead of living with the fear that they may go away or waste time indulging in strife or discord? We can choose love over fear and remain fully embraced with those around us as a temporal gift while they are here and an eternal one in the heart when they are not.
We need to commit to letting our guard down, shutting our old selves down, and move into the opportune space of our new home – fearlessness.
Every time we feel a fear arise, we connect with God through Christ and go back to meditation to see what kind of strategy we have evoked to protect a wound that we haven’t brought to the light to be healed. We search for the meanings that elicit our response and ask ourselves, ‘What else in life are we resisting in this fashion? What has it cost us?’ Then, we change our thinking.
Life is what it is and it does what it does. No amount of fear will alter that. Fear is a tool we create for resisting life, even though it is totally ineffective in doing so. Those who are fearless accept life and remain aware of all the obstacles that appear to prevent them from living – never entertaining the notion that the obstacles consist of something they cannot handle. After all, they have God on their side.
They no longer judge themselves or others or brood over their mistakes. Should a blip occur, they look at why they committed them, drop any meanings at the root of them and jump headfirst back into the stream of life.
Goodnight and God bless.