Characteristics Of A Life When God Is Absent: Final Outcome

This is the eleventh post in our continuing series (that began with How The Devil Stole Your Soul) where we have been investigating Satan’s age-old strategy for depriving our soul from its rightful place in the kingdom of God (using our own efforts), how we do his work by handing down that strategy from generation to generation, the ways our thinking gets twisted, and finally, the characteristics we take on in life, when we make God absent by turning away because we don’t believe He’ll accept us.

We previously looked at the characteristics of living in the past, walking in fear, blustering in anger and being self-absorbed and non-communicative. Let’s examine the final one:

Characteristic #5: Unrelated

In other words, having become someone whose thinking patterns make it impossible for them to have a healthy relationship with anyone – with God, themselves, or with others.

This ‘unrelated-ness’ is not so much a ‘characteristic’ as it is the final outcome of living out the other characteristics listed above:

If you’re trapped in the past, you cannot be in present time where real communication and relationship exists.

If you are afraid of other people because of the threat that you think they represent or you’re they might learn something you’re trying to keep hidden, you will isolate yourself from relationship.

If you bound about like some angry ogre, trying to prevent people from ‘hurting’ you, you’re going to drive them away.

If you only present your mask, no one gets to meet the real you; and if you cannot communicate from other than your own agenda, no real exchange takes place.

(All of this is a result of not seeking God or from running away from Him – both of which deprive you of His love and peace.)

Thus, if you’re working one or more these strategies, what possible hope do you have to grow a healthy, loving, mutually nurturing relationship? A snowball’s chance in hell…

Our entire lives are lived within the framework of relationships – with friends, family, significant others, coworkers, God (hopefully) and with ourselves. Yet for most people, living in relationship is the hardest part of living.

No one gave us a manual (except God) for how to relate to others. In fact, we’re thrust into relationship at birth and then blindly plow through each successive one – trying to learn how to do relationship as we go along. And it’s even more challenging for those who have been ‘broken’ by life.

Our first exposure to relationship was with our parents, who, for the most part, lovingly (but unconsciously) passed down their life indoctrination (with all its un-examined, untruthful, and unworkable components). As a child, we absorbed them without examination either. The end result? Perpetuated misery.

Thanks to our sickly symbiotic relationship with the Dark Mind (that voice in our head), we end up either perpetually alone, or we fall in and out of ‘acquaintances’ because we are afraid to share who we really are.

We look at the world with eyes filtered by our ‘Life Story’ with all its embellishments of meaningless meanings. This is not because our past was so wonderful, but because we were traumatized by the events, or we traumatized ourselves by the meanings we attached to them. Ultimately, we’ve surmised that people aren’t safe, and that they’ll reject the love we offer – rejecting us. So we throw up walls of defense, e.g. our masks.

Our soul has taken on a ‘slipperiness,’ preventing us from being able to stick’ to others. Thus, our primary needs for love and acceptance go unmet.

We don’t even love ourselves because we believe that voice in our head when it says we harbor something within that’s revolting. Because of that, we don’t provide love and acceptance for ourselves. Moreover, we try to separate from our true self.

Until that is resolved, all ‘acquaintances’ with others will not fill the emptiness. After all, if you do not know how to love yourself, how in the world could you expect others to know?

So you see, we show up for relationships with a huge built-in disadvantage – looking for someone to ‘fix’ us. We’re sad, grieving over what we think is wrong with us and exhausted from trying to find someone who will give us what we’re sure we lack. Adding more insanity to this twisted logic, we present our false masks to those we seek to make them believe we already have what we’re convinced we lack.

We dance a frenetic dance in order to garner the favor of others so that we might receive repair.

However, we cannot get anything from anybody unless we are first willing to provide it for ourselves. It is not possible for someone else to alter the experience we have created of ourselves.

That experiential change must come from the inside; and the biggest change we must bring upon ourselves is self-acceptance. We will never feel love and acceptance from others until we first love and accept ourselves.

Otherwise, the only kinds of people we’ll attract will be those who run the same unworkable schemes that we do – people who will abuse us in direct proportion to which we tolerate it from the Dark Mind. Think about it. If you search for acceptance from others for who you really are, while simultaneously presenting your mask and your potential partner is doing the same, (i.e. they are like you, trying to get something from someone without giving anything back) how will either of you find satisfaction?

We stay on the hunt for that imaginary ‘fix’ even though we are frightened beyond measure to find it, because deep down we’re afraid they will reject us by invalidating our beliefs, dominating us and swallowing up who we are, or will refuse to meet our needs.

This painful fear comes from our relationship with that voice in our head whereupon we judge ourselves unlovable.

Because of prior experiences with ‘failed’ relationships, we have a tendency to equate relationship with pain; and it is human nature to avoid pain. Out of fear then, many people avoid relationships – denying their loneliness in aberrant isolation.

Love cannot coexist with fear. (1 Jn. 4:18)

So, this is how most people show up for a relationship: scared, defensive, defeated and sad – all before it even begins…

According to God, relationships are everything:

…for the LORD your God is gracious and merciful, and will not turn His face from you if you return to Him. 2 Chr. 30:9 NKJV

And behold, I am with you and will keep (watch over you with care, take notice of) you wherever you may go… Gn. 28:15 AMP

It is the LORD who goes before you. He will be with you; He will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed. Dt. 31:8 ESV

For You have delivered my soul from death, indeed my feet from stumbling, so that I may walk before God in the light of the living. Ps. 56:13 NASB

The LORD preserves all who love Him… Ps. 145:20 NKJV

This is but a fraction of the love of God, and it’s all yours for the asking. All He asks is for you to be related to Him. And He’s just waiting for you to initiate it…

For the Son of Man came to save [from the penalty of eternal death] that which was lost. Mt. 18:11 AMP

“I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” Jn. 14:6 NKJV

“I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly. I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd gives His life for the sheep.” Jn. 10:10, 11. NKJV

I have loved you, [just] as the Father has loved Me; abide in My love [continue in His love with Me]. Jn. 15:9 AMP

The only way to be related to God is to be related to His Son. That relationship expands your life and opens the doors to eternity. It brings the love and acceptance relationship you’ve always yearned for…

And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Comforter (Counselor, Helper, Intercessor, Advocate, Strengthener, and Standby), that He may remain with you forever – The Spirit of Truth…you know and recognize Him, for He lives with you [constantly] and will be in you. Jn. 14:16, 17. AMP

“However, when He, the Spirit of truth, has come, He will guide you into all truth; for He will not speak on His own authority, but whatever He hears He will speak; and He will tell you of things to come. He will glorify Me, for He will take of what is Mine and declare it to you.” Jn. 16:13, 14. NKJV

But as it is written, “What no eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man imagined, what God has prepared for those who love him” – these things God has revealed to us through the Spirit. For the Spirit searches everything, even the depths of God. 1 Cor. 2:9, 10. ESV

…the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. Rm. 8:26 NKJV

But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of God, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord. Cor. 3:18 NKJV

When you are related to God (through Christ), you are guaranteed a relationship with the Holy Spirit – who reveals the truth of God to you, which in and of itself reveals Christ and He is also the Holy Vehicle through whom God brings your divine transformation, readying you for your heavenly entrance.

Emmanuel Swedenborg, (a 1700’s theologian) described this heavenly threefold relationship we enter into in this manner: God the ‘Divine Soul’ related to Christ the ‘Divine Body,’ from which emanates the ‘Divine Love and Wisdom,’ (i.e. the Holy Spirit) to work the salvation of Man.

You can’t help but be your highest and best when you are in a relationship like that.

And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Gn. 2:18 NKJV

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Mk. 10:7 – 9. ESV

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. Pr. 31:10 – 12. ESV

In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself…let each of you love his wife and himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Eph. 5:28 & 33. ESV

Behold, children are a gift from the LORD, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. Ps. 127:3 – 5. NASB

Fathers, do not irritate and provoke your children to anger [do not exasperate them to resentment], but rear them [tenderly] in the training and discipline and the counsel and the admonition of the Lord. Eph. 6:4 AMP

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: “that it may be well with you and you my live long on the earth.” Eph. 6:1, 2. NKJV

What are we seeing here? It’s the Divine importance of the relationship of family. Men and women were God-ordained to come together in marriage to create a family – one where the husband and wife love and respect each another. How do they do that? They have to love and respect themselves first! (see above: Eph. 5:28 & 33.)

We see that children are the Divine outcome of this union and they are to be loved and treasured – brought up in the word of God. Also, the children must be taught that God says they are to mirror this behavior (along with respect) back to their parents.

Two are better than one, because they have a good [more satisfying] reward for their labor; for if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to life him up! Again, if two lie down together, then they have warmth; but how can one be warm alone? And though a man might prevail against him who is alone, two will withstand him. A threefold cord is not quickly broken. Eccl. 4:9-12. AMP

As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend. Pr. 27:17 NKJV

A man who has friends must himself be friendly… Pr. 18:24 NKJV

A friend loves at all times… Pr. 17:17 NKJV

God says that a friend is one who lives in a love relationship with another and that having that friend will elevate and enhance many areas of both their lives.

You shall love your neighbor as [you do] yourself. Mt. 22:39 AMP

…he who loves God must love his brother also. 1 Jn. 4:21 NKJV

“…love one another as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are My disciples…” Jn. 13:34, 35. NKJV

Finally, we see that there is no one with which we are to withhold our love – including ourselves! God is saying that you are related to everyone!

In order to receive all this love and the associated benefits, we have to practice relating in relationships that work!

Stay tuned…

Good night and God bless.

Characteristics Of A Life When God Is Absent – Part 5

This is the fifth part of a subset of ten posts (beginning with How The Devil Stole Your Soul) that examines the behavioral characteristics commonly found in people who have either never sought God or have slunk away from Him, rendering Him absent in their lives – feeling undeserving of His love because of who they think they are, or as a consequence of what they have done.

We generally see character patterns such as fixations on the past, fear, anger, and being overly concerned about oneself. Let’s look at yet another:

Characteristic #5: Incommunicado

When you were born, you communicated perfectly. Your coos and cries brought joy, love and immediate attention from your parents. However, after the generations-old world conditioning was handed down to you by your parents, peers, schools, government and the media, your ability to communicate was squelched.

Yours wasn’t a solitary incident. Most others suffer from the same predicament. There is no communication because everyone is engaged in sharing their illusory ‘Life Stories’ through the mouths of their false masks. There is no exchange of reality, of truth.

We learned as children that if we (innocently) told the truth about something and our parents didn’t particularly want to hear that truth, we got punished. So, like our parents, we learn to edit out portions of the truth (i.e. lie) and to speak no more of them to avoid further recrimination.

When this behavior becomes entrenched, we will have accepted lies about ourselves, others and life itself, and they will constitute our ‘new truth,’ which differs from other people’s new truth. Thus, we don’t have a common viewpoint from which to engage anyone with.

Combine that with our obsession to be engrossed in a chronic conversation with that voice in our head, and eventually we find that we are incommunicado.

Yet we cling voraciously to our particular viewpoint because our lives are structured around them – lies and all; and lies are never a good thing:

For they exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator… Rm. 1:25 NASB

After all, what is the mask that you don, other than your created thing? It’s the thing you give all your energy to, all your attention (worship) to – seeking the acceptance of man instead of God.

“We must obey God rather than men.” Acts 5:29 NASB

A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who speaks lies will not escape. Pr. 19:5 NKJV

And isn’t someone who is living a lie and unable to effectively communicate, living in punishment already?

Given the seemingly insurmountable barriers to communication that people instill within themselves, you’ll find that many withdraw from the task – trading communication for isolation, caused by their own prejudices and blame-laying. They’re living in their heads instead of in the real world.

Their communication style becomes an action / reaction exchange – whereby they speak behind walls of defense, always on the lookout for some potential trigger that might open their old wounds. In this mode, they cannot listen because they are focused on meeting the needs of their self-image, which is promulgated by that voice in their head.

Thus, your attention is totally focused upon yourself during any conversation as you impatiently wait for the other to shut up so that you can smear your truth on them.

Your need to be ‘right’ keeps you from learning anything new, so that you cannot outgrow your past.

(You know you’re in this situation when you hear that voice in your head say, ‘I’ve heard all this before.’)

You can only be ‘right’ if you make others ‘wrong.’ So now you’re making enemies, which leads toward a solitary life. Where there is no communication, there can be no love…

For the whole Law [concerning human relationships] is compiled with in the one precept, You shall love your neighbor as [you do] yourself. Gal. 5:14 AMP
Goodnight and God bless.

Characteristics Of A Life When God Is Absent – Part 4

This is the ninth post of a series (beginning with How The Devil Stole Your Soul) where we are looking at what becomes of someone who unconsciously absorbs the social conditioning that was authored in antiquity by the ‘father of lies.’ This conditioning revolves around two root sentences: ‘I’m unlovable,’ and ‘I’m not good enough.’

When one makes these the pillars of their self-reference, they run from God – making Him absent from them; and their life is but a hollow core of what it could have been. You can spot people who are suffering with this illusion because they display certain characteristics. We already mentioned three of them: suspended animation (stuck in the past), panic (fear of life), and wrath (self-directed anger at their self-induced plight that they project towards others). Let’s continue:

Characteristic #4: Self-absorption

When you were born, you didn’t have a self-image:

So God created man in His own image, in the image and likeness of God He created him; male and female He created them. Gn. 1:27 AMP

You had a God-image. But somewhere in life, from the bumps and bruises and the berating from the voice in your head and the voices in the heads of others, you made a decision to deny your God-connection because you brought meanings to events in your life that weren’t true.

For example, let’s say someone turns you down for a date. It could have simply been that you weren’t their type, or they were afraid of intimacy, or they didn’t want a relationship at that particular time. But you make it about you – saying things to yourself like ‘How could they be so insensitive?’ Why can’t they see what a good catch I am?’

Then that voice in your head jumps in and ‘helps’ you see your situation in a new light as it says, ‘They are so mean. You shouldn’t go out with them anyway. Did you see how ugly and stupid they were?’ And, because the voice wants to keep you miserable in order to control you, it’ll then redirect the criticisms back at you: e.g. ‘How could you be such a moron as to ask them out? You are so ugly, stupid and undesirable. What will others think when they find out you were rejected? You’ll be alone for the rest of your life.’

It does that to bring you back to those two primary sentences we started this post with.

So what do you do? You combat these false meanings you’ve attached to events and to yourself with a new false image – a mask constructed of the lies from that voice in your head, who tells you how you must present yourself to please others. In other words, you try to appear as someone who doesn’t exist; and you never let your guard down because that same voice has convinced you that you have some monstrous inner parts, that if exposed, would bring you a lifetime of loneliness.

You become obsessed with the maintenance of your mask – self-absorbed, always tweaking your mask to meet what you think are the needs of the next person, trying to appear ‘flawless’ in their eyes. It’s both exhausting and unrewarding. Because these people are relating to your mask, they never get to meet the real you and your real needs are never met.

Your self-absorption becomes chronic because your number one pastime is to avoid rejection, which you feel you must do with just about everyone you meet. Thus, you have to continually promote your mask and it requires you having to build up some kind of ‘false pride’ in it so that others will be convinced it’s you.

Many of us get into this mess because we never examine how we think! We insist on being ignorant about who God made us to be and about what our ‘self-image’ has been up to. It is a purposeful case of mistaken identity because we fool ourselves into believing that our mask will bring the acceptance from others we so sorely crave – which keeps sending us that backhanded message of worthlessness.

That mask is built upon the framework of our suffering – the very thing we’re trying so hard to avoid. Thus, we keep that suffering on the center stage of our lives.

Your life never gets to be lived because the voice in your head feeds your self-image, knowing that as long as you’re obsessed with that, you’ll never see your own perfection.

You matter to God:

For just as the body is a unity and yet has many parts, and all the parts though many, form [only] one body, so it is with Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One.) For by [means of the personal agency of] one [Holy} Spirit we were all, whether Jews or Greeks, slaves or free, baptized [and by baptism united together] into one body, and all made to drink of one [Holy] Spirit. 1 Cor. 12:12, 13. AMP

For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb. I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; wonderful are Your works, and my soul knows it very well. Ps. 139:13, 14. NASB

Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? 1 Cor. 3:16 ESV

There is nothing wrong with you. Never was. Never will be. But you have to reconnect with Him to see it.

Until then, you will continue to judge yourself for who you are not; and then you exact punishment upon yourself, hoping it will make you good. You can’t beat goodness into anyone.

There is nothing wrong with any of us. It’s just that we’ve bought into the Big Lie – the lie that says we are damaged goods…
Goodnight and God bless.

Characteristics Of A Life When God Is Absent – Part 2

This is the seventh in a series of posts beginning with How The Devil Stole Your Soul, where we’ve looked at how the thoughts you entertain in your head are what breaks your connection with God and renders Him absent.

These are a string of thoughts you learned as a child, handed down to you by unconscious parents and others in your lives, as well as malevolent governments, media and the branches of both. The outcome of these destructive thoughts is one where most people have very little regard for who they think they are and they become afraid of the world around them. In such a case, people who don’t lean on God (because they have estranged Him) take on certain characteristics. We spoke of the first of these last time: Suspended Animation.

It is a state one lives when they are trapped in their past and afraid of their future, never having a life because they cannot be in present time, which is where real life happens…

Characteristic #2: Panic

You rarely see little children running in abject panic. It has to be indoctrinated into them by parents, peers, schools, governments and their media lackeys – all of which are a reflection of that fear-spewing voice in their heads. This ‘fear mindset’ is the disease of an anxious world.

What are these children afraid of? They’re frightened of same things that scare the adults, because they cling to those lessons from childhood. It’s all about the child having come to a conclusion that he or she is inadequate, they will be punished or rejected for that inadequacy, and that makes their world a dangerous place.

Fear is not real; it’s not a solid thing. It is an emotional mechanism for avoiding pain – for avoiding things that might happen. It does not protect you. Indeed, prolonged exposure to fear leads to insomnia, ulcers, high blood pressure, heart attacks, strokes and cancer.

We end up with a child (who becomes an adult) who avoids the unknown, so that they will not have to face the punishment that would follow some failure they might commit – running through life in a near state of panic, trying not to make mistakes, striving to be perfect. Should they make a mistake, the voice in their head will beat them with it as long as they allow it.

Is any of this congruent with the ways of God?

The fear of man brings a snare, but whoever leans on, trusts in, and puts his confidence in the Lord is safe and set on high. Pr. 29:25 AMP

“Do not be afraid…I am your shield, your exceedingly great reward.” Gn. 15:1 NKJV

‘I shall also grant peace in the land, so that you may lie down with no one making you tremble.’ Lv. 26:6 NASB

I sought the LORD, and He answered me, and delivered me from all my fears. Ps. 34:4 NASB

When I am afraid, I will put my trust in You. In God, whose word I praise, in God I have put my trust; I shall not be afraid. What can mere man do to me? Ps. 56:3, 4. NASB

Yes, though I walk through the [deep, sunless] valley of the shadow of death, I will fear or dread no evil, for You are with me; Your rod [to protect] and Your staff [to guide], they comfort me. Ps. 23:4 AMP

The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life; of whom shall I be afraid? Ps. 27:1 ESV

Little children, you are of God [you belong to Him] and have already defeated and overcome them [the agents of the antichrist], because He Who lives in you is greater (mightier) than he who is in the world. 1 Jn. 4:4 AMP

Well, that looks like a lot of ‘no’ doesn’t it? God delivers you from what fears? All fears. He is your shield. He protects you from all people, and even from death itself. What about that awful voice in your head? It was patterned after the voice that lied to Adam and Eve – the original antichrist. Yep! God put Christ within you and has got that chatterbox beat as well.

But, the person who has been conditioned, who feels so bad about themselves and is sure that God has rejected them, doesn’t know any of this. They only know fear.

There are three basic fears: the fear of death (if you believed in God you would not fear death): “Behold the tabernacle of God is with men, and He will dwell with them, and they shall be His people. God Himself will be with them and be their God. And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying.” Rv. 21:3, 4. NKJV

The fear of abandonment (which comes from believing that you are unlovable, unacceptable, and must find your meaning in life from others): And the LORD, He is the One who goes before you, He will not leave you nor forsake you; do not fear nor be dismayed.” Dt. 31:8 NKJV

Finally, we have the fear of impermanence (change). Yet the only thing life guarantees is change. Internally, we all know that, but it’s unnerving for most people because they want to know what’s going to happen next. They want things to stay the same so they can feel that they have some semblance of control over life.

“For I am the LORD, I do not change;” Mal. 3:6 NKJV

The mind of man plans his way, but the LORD directs his steps. Pr. 16:9 NASB

Do not [earnestly] remember the former things; neither consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing! Is. 43:18, 19. AMP

God is the only unchangeable force in this universe. We can count on what He will do as we walk by His word. However, we can make all the plans we want, but if they don’t jive with His plans, God’s going to try to nudge you into a new way. It is your ‘absent-minded’ wanderings that cause Him to change up things (for your good). Change is good because it means we have a plethora of new possibilities to look forward to.

But hey, we’re talking about people who are blind to all of this – people who are obsessed with trying to get everything ‘right’ and afraid of what will happen if they don’t. They become chameleons trying to mold themselves into what they think others want them to be.

Ultimately, they are afraid to decide on any options and become paralyzed – afraid to do and afraid to be, running from the meanings they’ve attached to everything. They’re running from fear, not realizing that they are generating it.

We scramble from the present moment and hide from the next one because they are unknowns. Thus, we lose any chance to be happy because we’re too busy struggling to bring all our conditions together that must be met for that perfect moment that never comes.

We react to life instead of evaluating it, so we never experience the reality of what it is that we are afraid of. What we are afraid of is being ourselves; and there can be no life without fear if we are afraid to express our true selves. We believe the lies the voice in our head tells us – the one who invalidates our feelings and then eviscerates us for having them. Yet all of this abuse pales in comparison to what we heap upon our own heads.

We think there is some sort of secret to figuring life out; sure that everyone else knows what it is. Life presents itself as it is, yet we refuse to accept it because it’s not the way we want it. We keep searching for safety but the only way to find that is to live life less. Not a good thing.

Everyone is so afraid that they’ll never get it all together. Guess what? NOBODY DOES! We are all a work in progress.

Fear needs to be uprooted so that we can make conscious decisions. Would someone consciously decide to hurt themselves and others, invite suffering, and believe that they are unlovable? Of course not!

You only do those things because you are afraid – only because you forgot your perfection…
Goodnight and God bless.

Characteristics Of A Life When God Is Absent

The set-up:

In that last five previous posts, we’ve been exploring how the devil stole your soul by planting a thought in the heads of Adam and Eve, from which they deduced that they were not created perfect the way God made them. They passed this message onto their children and each successive generation has followed suit.

That message is personified in most people’s heads as the voice of ‘ego,’ a voice they’ve taken on as their own. This voice lies to you, leading you down a path where you define your life from a feeling that you’re inherently flawed, making you ‘unlovable’ and / or ‘not good enough.’ Subsequently, you berate yourself for those imaginary flaws that the unlovable voice in your head says you have. In shame you isolate yourself from your true self, others, and even from God Himself. Yes, it is you breaking off your spiritual connection that makes for an absent God.

Your life mirrors what is going on in your head, which puts you continually on the run from the ‘bad things’ that you think are going on in and around you. Thus, you cannot see that it is you creating that inner and outer environment. And you wear yourself out trying to wear a mask that you hope others will accept. It lll eads to lethargy, isolation, physical illness and violence.

The violence stems from your resistance against the world you perceive, and you make yourself a victim to relieve you from having to take responsibility for your life. You begin to identify with the harsh criticisms hurled at you by that voice: ‘Yes, I just don’t have what it takes;’ i.e. you are defining yourself as a loser and manifest that for everyone to see; and see it they do…

Characteristic #1: Suspended animation

In other words, you’re living life (if you want to call it that) outside of real time. The voice helps you do this by stealing your time, robbing you from the only time in which reality exists – in the present moment. It does that by continually pummeling you with the events of your past (primarily your version of it: your Life Story). As it immerses you in the past, it tells you that you are your past. So, your life becomes a reflection of your childhood and you become preoccupied in trying to fix that inner wounded child’s problems.

We chase our own tails, reliving what we think are the events of our past, over and over – giving them a little more oomph with each revolution.

Not only does our ‘dark mind’ use the past to control us, but it also dangles the hope of a better future in front of you – again to keep you from living in the present moment. In addition, the only place we can experience God is in present time.

(The voice also beats you over the head with what it says are the sins of your past, so that you will be too ashamed to seek Him out anyway.)

Your only real and ongoing sin is living in suffering, and throwing your precious life away. But you know what? Christ has already died and rose again so that you could gain forgiveness for any transgression in your past, and He is willing to help you retrieve your present:

“Do not call to mind the former things, or ponder the things of the past. Behold, I will do something new, now it will spring forth; will you not be aware of it? I will even make a roadway in the wilderness, rivers in the desert.” Is. 43:18, 19. NASB

“I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions for My own sake; and I will not remember your sins.” Is. 43:25 NKJV

Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy-laden and overburdened, and I will cause you to rest. [I will ease and relieve and refresh your souls.] Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle (meek) and humble (lowly) in heart, and you will find rest (relief and ease and refreshment and recreation and blessed quiet) for your souls. For My yoke is wholesome (useful, good – not harsh, hard, sharp, or pressing, but comfortable, gracious, and pleasant), and My burden is light and easy to be borne.) Mt. 11:28 – 30. AMP

God never intended for you to live a burdensome life, trapped in some illusory past. He knows that when you continually put your mind in front of your eyes, you can only give Him your back.

You know when you have chosen your past over God because you remain frozen in time – revealed by a conversation in your head that is only about the past. You continually spew forth sentences such as ‘If only I would have done ___.’ ‘If only I’d married ___.’ ‘If only I wasn’t so ___.’ ‘If only my parents weren’t so ___.’ ‘If only, if only, if only…’

It’s a conversation consisting of a string of regrets (attachments to the past) – a flurry of thoughts telling you that you, someone else, or something else must change in order for you to be happy. You do the same thing when you’re lost in some nebulous future: ‘If only I could be taller, richer, etc.’

What happens when you keep these conversations going in your head? Nothing happens. Why? Life is only lived in the present moment.

The voice likes you in the past because that is where it can exercise its power. It is not omniscient. That’s why it doesn’t like you in the present moment because that represents change – an unpredictable state of affairs that it can’t control. So it keeps presenting your world as an ongoing stream of past events with warnings like ‘What if this happens again?’ In other words, it preserves its relevance by keeping you believing that your worst nightmare is lurking just around the corner.

What it has done is that in your mind it has changed the true meaning of time as the opportunity to live a meaningful life, and made it the enemy – a place where you cower in the fear of replaying your past.

How does that look? Life never seems to be what we think it should be. It’s a life we map out in order to avoid the pain of our past, which ultimately keeps our focus on that very same pain.

Instead of seeking out God to help us ferret out the roots of our dissatisfaction with life, we change jobs, relationships and geography, or we immerse ourselves in meaningless activities of distraction – remaining the author of our own vexation.

Life changes with our without you. You suffer because you want your sad life to remain the same because it’s all you know and because you know the person you have to be to live it. But, it just continues to worsen because your past is bottomless. Why? Because you continue to embellish your Life Story so that there are always new nuances with which to beat yourself up with.

This is not living; it is dying unconsciously…

No one makes the conscious decision to be wounded, yet those wounds will continue to fester in those who will not let go of their past.

Whatever happened in your past my or may not have been your fault. It may or may not have happened the way you remember it. Whatever happened, IT DOESN’T MATTER! What matters is that you learn from it and move on.

You cannot get that time back or undo what has transpired. You have to let it go. That part is your responsibility.

It’s time to seek God and let Him wake you from your suspended animation and fit you with a new watch.

But as for me, I trust in You O LORD; I say, “You are my God,” my times are in Your hand; Ps. 31:14, 15. NKJV

For I know the thoughts I think towards you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart. I will be found by you, says the LORD, and I will bring you back from your captivity… Jer. 29:11 – 14. NKJV

Until next time…
Goodnight and God bless.