(Note: You may wonder what I’m talking about if you haven’t been following along for the last 6 months as we’ve been exploring the enemy in our head. I sincerely invite you to do so.)
Most of God’s creations shine – reflecting the glory of God just by being what they were created to be. They are naturally luminous. However, God’s greatest creation, Man, unconsciously covers him or her self with layers of dark lies that smother the Divine Light.
But what if we didn’t? What if we looked at our unconscious automatic ways of acting and thinking, and chose to stop doing them? Then, we could climb out of our frenzied fear-filled actions and be free of the collateral damage that is the fruit of them…
God equipped us from birth with everything we need to live a successful life. We started out whole and our path was placed in front of us:
For you formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You for I am fearfully and wonderfully made…Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book, they all were written, the days fashioned for me, when as yet there were none of them. Ps. 139:13, 14 & 16. NKJV
We may have done some flawed thinking and committed some unsound actions, but who we are has always been perfect, good enough and lovable. What we need to do is to stop doing the things that keep us from living our life in a perfect fashion. Those ‘things’ are the ways that take us out of the present moment – that we do in an effort to control life and eliminate change (impossible) in a relentless quest to find security.
We’ve learned that life cannot be controlled and that change is the only thing it guarantees. So, it makes absolutely no sense to keep waging this un-winnable war that saps our very essence. Worse, our efforts leave us a sense of helpless and unworthiness, that we try to hide by covering ourselves with some false personality – a mask that we hope others will find acceptable.
Yet God created us to be far more than ‘acceptable’ just the way we are:
Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you?…For God’s temple is holy and you are that temple. 1 Cor. 3:16, 17. ESV
As a true extension of God, we can’t be anything but perfect. When we accept Christ into our hearts, we the temple, become holy, which means ‘set apart, dedicated to sacred purposes, morally pure’ and ‘sinless.’ There is nothing that needs improvement and no reason to vie for acceptance and approval from others. We already have those things from the Source.
Unfortunately, there are many who become terrified at the thought of doing the only thing that will solve their dilemma – that is, to sit still with life and embrace all the possibilities of the present moment. Why do they do that? It’s because they formed an opinion (most likely in childhood) where they tell themselves that they don’t have what it takes to survive life.
Yet living an extraordinary life is not about what you have, it’s about letting go – letting go of your false self, your self-condemnation, and the past that no longer exists, i.e. all your patterns of living life (with anger, fear, prejudice, lust and shame, etc.) that cause you to run for your mask.
What imprisons you is not life, it’s the war that you have going on in your head.
When you don’t have to be in control, you will possess infinite freedom. Freedom comes when you stop and pay attention; and that’s where your tools come in handy: Sit still in meditation and watch the criticisms of the voice in your head cascade. See them for what they are (pathetic attempts at survival through domination and condemnation). Feel the wild emotions you conjure up in response – the pounding heart, the shortness of breath, the agony of fear, anger and shame. Watch how your responses build in sequence and see what triggers each one.
Face these uncomfortable feelings and inquire: ‘Are these thoughts true?’ NOT! The truth is that we are up against our own unworkable decisions, based upon false meanings. We can dismantle those root patterns of our misery and find out why we committed them by asking more questions: ‘What pain have I been suppressing? What fears am I running from? Why have I believed what I believe?’
Be patient and watch with suspended belief. Look for any real validity. Notice but refuse to engage with lies that try to justify themselves or try to validate any self-justification. Only love-related thoughts are based in truth. Entertain and live by those.
You may be frightened when you begin this wake-up process because heretofore you have believed that your mask (self-image) is real; but it isn’t, and most people see through it anyway.
Put your faith in the magnificence of who you really are – a unique image of God. What have you got to lose? When you expose the lies that made you think you had to be a chameleon, you’ll burn that mask.
What we are burning off is the dross of the world that contaminated us; and we are turning our eyes upon God and offering our willingness to be reclaimed. It’s an offer God promises to fill:
And all of us, as with unveiled face, [because we] continued to behold [in the Word of God] as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are constantly being transfigured into His very own image in ever increasing splendor and from one degree of glory to another; [for this comes] from the Lord [Who is] the Spirit. 2 Cor. 3:18 AMP
…He Who began a good work in you will continue until the day of Jesus Christ [right up to the time of His return], developing [that good work] and perfecting it to full completion in you. Phil. 1:6 AMP
When we let go of our self-condemnation, we become the recipients of God’s mercy. We are a creation of His love. There is nothing we could have done or have had done to us that would ever make us unlovable in His eyes. And when we love and accept ourselves, the darkness within us dies.
As a child, there was no way we could have processed, let alone coped with, the wiles of the enemy through his generational assault. All we deserve is compassion and love…
Commit to uncover all the ways you unconsciously do life instead of live it: procrastinating, lying, denying, and wearing guilt and shame. Then, stop doing!
However, be on the alert for that voice in your head. It won’t go down without a fight; but you can find victory if you refuse to engage with it, because it feeds off of your life.
Very soon after you created it, it told you that you needed it to take care of you. Ask yourself, ‘Has that ever been true?’ and ‘How has that worked out for me?’
The voice will chastise you for your decision to become conscious. It will assure you that you’ll fail. It wants you miserable. Feel that experience, seeing how you’ve been a partner in your own demise. Turn your back on that impotent ghost and re-commit to living from your spirit.
You deserve a love-filled life. It’s your birthright. You don’t need to earn it. Just open yourself up, tap into the love you have inside, and choose to receive it. Otherwise, life just keeps passing you by.
You deserve everything life has to offer. You were put here to experience it all. You only have to accept its availability.
You do not need anyone’s approval for being yourself. Honor the unique creation of love that God made you. You don’t need fixing. You don’t deserve punishment for past deeds. If you struggled with anything, if just meant that you had an issue you had difficulty with – not that there was anything wrong with you. Bring all of the pain that you have borne to Christ for His healing. You only have to let that ‘good person’ that you already are, step away from living behind the mask.
Select your thoughts; think of desirable outcomes. You get what you focus on. You’ve already seen your power in the manifestation of your ‘old’ life; thus, you must also have the power to create something new.
Think in completeness; e.g. ‘I am peaceful,’ not ‘I’m somewhat peaceful.’ The voice will use that, asking you, ‘A little peaceful compared to what?’ Then the ‘what’ becomes your focus.
Bring each day into focus by asking, ‘I have _____ in my life because…’ and ‘I don’t have ____ in my life because…’ These questions are for finding out the emotional charge you have on each, so that you can direct your day accordingly.
Ask uplifting questions: ‘How can I share myself with others today? How can I answer with total love? How does God want me to serve Him? Where do I want my focus?’
If we support ourselves 100%, it won’t matter what others do. There is a ‘compassion poverty’ on this planet. We look to ourselves for compassion, bathe in it, and let the rest spill over onto others.
There is one thing you must actually practice to complete your love-transformation – forgiveness. In your old life, you’ve been passing judgment upon yourself and others for years. You must forgive, so that you can create the space for love.
Have you ever noticed how uncomfortable you feel around people you haven’t forgiven? It’s because they reflect to you things you haven’t forgiven yourself for.
Everyone is trying to scramble through life the best way they can. If they’ve offended you, it was most likely because they felt what they did was paramount for their protection. It is rarely personal.
If you felt rejected, most of the time that other person was busily engaged in their own cranial drama and just forgot you were there – not personal, not rejection.
Forgiveness heals – mentally and physically. It frees you up to live a life you don’t need to hide from, keeps the salt out of your wounds and liberates you from having an attitude that is fertile for committing loveless acts.
If you don’t want to forgive, take a focused look at the lack of justification behind your stance and drop it. It’s not about asking why you had that attitude, you probably won’t remember or lie about why you think you’re justified. It doesn’t solve anything. Look instead at what ‘not forgiving’ costs. The right direction will be clear.
‘Not forgiving’ makes you a victim (denying your experience) and prolongs your suffering. Feel the experience, get the lesson, forgive yourself and let it go. Forget about who did what, realizing that nothing in the past has any relevancy in the present moment.
You are new in every moment. There are no dues to pay, no suffering you must endure, or any ideal you have to meet. You just made it up. Once you are actively engaged in returning to your true self, you will find that you’re leaving the lies in your head behind and lifting the crush of judgment off of your heart – living the dream.
Oh, your mind will still chatter from time to time. Just notice it, recognize it as nothing more than ‘meaningless thinking,’ and its volume and your response to it will continue to diminish. THERE IS NOTHING THAT YOU CAN’T LET GO OF!
Be your own best friend. Let your spirit be your guide and your true self will provide all of the love, peace and joy that you need, and there will be plenty left over to give to everyone around you. I
t doesn’t matter what’s going on around you. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other on the path that you know brings happiness (God’s path). Pay attention. You are responsible for the life you live. Create your life lovingly.
God sees you pure for His sake. He makes you holy (through Christ) so that you can remain in His presence. He never meant for your life to be burdensome. When we sit still with Him, we can converse. When we come home to ourselves, our light will drive out all darkness and project the love of God in and around us.
So, after all this, I ask you, ‘What is a perfect self-image?’ Why, it’s having no self-image at all. You are an image of the Father. The only thing you’ve ever had to do was to become yourself. You are perfect in every way. When you come to love and accept yourself, your world will change. You don’t need an image. And really, why would you want to hide perfection behind a mask?
You were put here to shine…
Goodnight and God Bless.