We have been looking at tools that we can bring to our disposal for creating a keen sensitivity to realizing when we fall of the path that God has set for us – i.e. sliding back into the destructive ways of the world. That sensitive alert we want to cultivate is one that motivates us to immediately return to God.
The first three tools we considered were:
1. Willingness: a willingness to call upon God for help and to conform to His ways.
2. God: If you could live your highest and best life through your own efforts, you would have done so by now. No one can. We have to look for the help that transcends our humanity. That assistance only comes from our Creator.
3. Meditation: a practice for rooting out the thought processes that prompt us to act in ways that are deleterious to our spiritual and physical well being. It allows us to stay in the present moment where life lives and our connection with God exists.
Let’s finish by examining the last two:
You were born perfect but you were unconsciously conditioned. You didn’t know that the meanings you attached to the world around you would become hazardous to your health – false interpretations especially facilitated through that voice construct in your head and lived out in the masks you try to cover your true self with.
It’s not your fault, but neither is it an excuse to be a victim. A victim sees no possibility. You have infinite possibilities. Now is the time to ask yourself questions. It’s not your fault for where you’ve been, but is your total responsibility to learn how to wake up and see what is real. Then you can see what is possible.
Definitions change as knowledge increases. Carlos Castaneda
You must question everything about how you’ve been living your life and look to see who has been in charge – deconstructing your false self in the process so that you can be free from your own opinions. It’s time to sow seeds of doubt in the voice in your head – time for you to take yourself off autopilot and grab hold of the helm.
This is not a one-on-one battle to try to get the voice to shut up. It doesn’t know how. However, you can neutralize it with the power of truth. You can always recognize your adversary when it’s around. It’s that mental barrage that is totally devoid of love.
It might say something like, ‘You’re stupid!’ Instead of rolling up into a fetal position, ask your heart, not your head, ‘Is that really true?’ Your heart will tell you ‘no,’ and it never lies. Think about what happens to you physically and emotionally when you’ve lived in agreement with the lies in your head. Respond to that apparition, ‘I’m far better than that.’ The voice will hiccup in disbelief.
Ask yourself (your heart), ‘What would my life be like, what would I be like, if I didn’t believe this lie, and instead embraced the truth of the wonder of how God made me?’ The voice gulps.
Commit to be kind and loving with yourself every time that voice squeaks. Do something that you don’t think you deserve – walk on the beach, do nothing for 30 minutes, get a root beer float.
Suppose that voice tells you not to go to a party you’ve been invited to, because the people there will make fun of you for being such a geek. Moreover, it says it knows just how you feel and suggests you reach for the bottle of wine you have in the kitchen to make yourself feel better.
What if you said to yourself, ‘Who says I’m a geek? It’s just that old lying ghost in my head. I don’t need a judge in my life any longer. It only brings me grief. I’m not believing anything it says ever again.’ And you go to the party! The voice moans.
However, let’s say you lost this round and chugged that bottle. The following day, when the voice berates you for your drunkenness, instead of exposing your flesh to be scourged, what if you respond with ‘Yes, I did something that was not good for me. I’m going to forgive myself for my unconscious behavior and act differently for my greater good.’ The voice begins to dissipate.
You see how much more powerful that is when you exhort yourself, give yourself another chance and hold out love and hope? Instead of hating yourself, continue to ask powerful questions to help you dethrone that mental tyrant. For example:
‘Can I allow myself to decide that I’ve been punished enough? Could I let go of wanting to punish myself? Will I let it go? Wouldn’t I rather be free? Can I stop from planning any more punishment against myself in the future? Could I let that feeling go?’
‘When will I do these things? Is there any reason why that moment can’t be right now?’
Questions are powerful. That voice in your head cannot stand up to inquisition, nor can it stand against love. If it says you are a monster inside, tell it to show that monster to you. (It can’t, because the monster doesn’t exist. It never did.)
Everything the voice says is a lie. Whatever it says, answer with ‘Who cares?’ Then tell yourself the opposite of its accusation. Always ask, ‘What is real, true and important here?’ When you become aware of your old ways of being and choose to do otherwise, (i.e. God’s ways) you will have real freedom.
Write your powerful questions down and post them around your house to remind you to return to your present moment. You are now in the process of living from the heart and leaving the mind behind…
‘Transforming moments’ consist of revelations (ah-ha moments of truth) that can literally change your life – if and only if you implement them. You cannot wish your problems away. You must reach out to God and challenge your adversary. God will move on your behalf, but you must act first.
That opens the way for you to create something new – a life that you want by putting your faith in your transforming moments (ultimately sent to you by God) and act!
You have to participate in getting back the life you were meant to have. And that’s exactly what we are going to do together…
Goodnight and God bless.