This is the fifth part of a subset of ten posts (beginning with How The Devil Stole Your Soul) that examines the behavioral characteristics commonly found in people who have either never sought God or have slunk away from Him, rendering Him absent in their lives – feeling undeserving of His love because of who they think they are, or as a consequence of what they have done.
We generally see character patterns such as fixations on the past, fear, anger, and being overly concerned about oneself. Let’s look at yet another:
Characteristic #5: Incommunicado
When you were born, you communicated perfectly. Your coos and cries brought joy, love and immediate attention from your parents. However, after the generations-old world conditioning was handed down to you by your parents, peers, schools, government and the media, your ability to communicate was squelched.
Yours wasn’t a solitary incident. Most others suffer from the same predicament. There is no communication because everyone is engaged in sharing their illusory ‘Life Stories’ through the mouths of their false masks. There is no exchange of reality, of truth.
We learned as children that if we (innocently) told the truth about something and our parents didn’t particularly want to hear that truth, we got punished. So, like our parents, we learn to edit out portions of the truth (i.e. lie) and to speak no more of them to avoid further recrimination.
When this behavior becomes entrenched, we will have accepted lies about ourselves, others and life itself, and they will constitute our ‘new truth,’ which differs from other people’s new truth. Thus, we don’t have a common viewpoint from which to engage anyone with.
Combine that with our obsession to be engrossed in a chronic conversation with that voice in our head, and eventually we find that we are incommunicado.
Yet we cling voraciously to our particular viewpoint because our lives are structured around them – lies and all; and lies are never a good thing:
For they exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator… Rm. 1:25 NASB
After all, what is the mask that you don, other than your created thing? It’s the thing you give all your energy to, all your attention (worship) to – seeking the acceptance of man instead of God.
“We must obey God rather than men.” Acts 5:29 NASB
A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who speaks lies will not escape. Pr. 19:5 NKJV
And isn’t someone who is living a lie and unable to effectively communicate, living in punishment already?
Given the seemingly insurmountable barriers to communication that people instill within themselves, you’ll find that many withdraw from the task – trading communication for isolation, caused by their own prejudices and blame-laying. They’re living in their heads instead of in the real world.
Their communication style becomes an action / reaction exchange – whereby they speak behind walls of defense, always on the lookout for some potential trigger that might open their old wounds. In this mode, they cannot listen because they are focused on meeting the needs of their self-image, which is promulgated by that voice in their head.
Thus, your attention is totally focused upon yourself during any conversation as you impatiently wait for the other to shut up so that you can smear your truth on them.
Your need to be ‘right’ keeps you from learning anything new, so that you cannot outgrow your past.
(You know you’re in this situation when you hear that voice in your head say, ‘I’ve heard all this before.’)
You can only be ‘right’ if you make others ‘wrong.’ So now you’re making enemies, which leads toward a solitary life. Where there is no communication, there can be no love…
For the whole Law [concerning human relationships] is compiled with in the one precept, You shall love your neighbor as [you do] yourself. Gal. 5:14 AMP
Goodnight and God bless.