Let’s hit the concept of loneliness right between the eyes first. One of the most common roots of modern-day loneliness stems from the advent of so-called communicative technologies. We have smart phone texting so that we don’t have to engage in real time voice-to-ear or face-to-face communication. Home computers have all but removed the necessity of classrooms or even working alongside others in group endeavors. Tablets and gaming devices create environments whereby we can stimulate / entertain ourselves by ourselves.
The ultimate outcome of using these tools that were supposed to bring us closer together is isolation. People are losing the ability to focus on anything other then themselves. Then, when they run out of ways to fulfill their most basic needs (love and acceptance) they find themselves alone with no clue how to remedy it. They’ve lost their social skills. In fact, many families cannot even communicate at the dinner table, as all of the members have their eyes and ears glued to some machine.
Death of friends and other loved ones often press the specter of loneliness on those who consider themselves ‘left behind.’ Yet those feelings are only generated by one’s attachment to their flesh. We have to look at the fact that no flesh (or anything material) as we know it, survives the journey on and off this earth: As he came from his mother’s womb, he shall go again, naked as he came, and shall take nothing for his toil that he may carry away in his hand. Eccl. 5:15 ESV
…flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God. 1 Cor. 15:50 NKJV
If you really look at it, you can see that it was not the flesh of the other that brought us joy, it was the state that he or she brought to our heart. Looking deep within your heart, you will find that the same state of joy still resides there – waiting for you to caress it and re-live it as many times as you need.
Finally, and most frequently, loneliness is something that we generate ourselves. At the root of it, is a loathing for ourselves because we believe that either we lack something that we are sure that everyone else has (not ever true) or because we believe we have committed unforgivable acts. (God is always ready to forgive.) Regardless, we project this inner shame, fear, and anger outwards – making ourselves undesirable to befriend. We drive others away…
A man who has friends must himself be friendly. Pr. 18:24 NKJV
As with all things, we need to look to God to help us make this change in us by learning how to relate, by stepping into the ultimate relationship – the one He asks us to make with Him. All we have to do is answer His request that He makes through His Son: Behold, I stand at the door and knock; if anyone hears and listens to and heeds My voice and opens the door, I will come to him and will eat with him, and he [will eat] with Me. Rev. 3:20 AMP
When you invite Christ into your life, God is not far behind:
Whoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God. 1 Jn 4:15 NKJV
Now, you have the Creator of the Universe living inside of you, as well as the Son through Whom God made it all happen; and it changes you:
For God did not give us a spirit of timidity (of cowardice, of craven and cringing and fawning fear), but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of calm and well-balanced mind and discipline and self-control. 2 Tim. 1:7 AMP
For we walk by faith [we regulate our lives and conduct ourselves by our conviction or belief respecting man's relationship to God and divine things, with trust and holy fervor; thus we walk] not by sight or appearance. 2 Cor. 5:7 AMP
Who wouldn’t want to be related to a God like that? Moreover, God meant for you to live this way even before you were born; and then when you do chose to relate in love with Him, He has every aspect of your journey here and beyond covered:
…God from the beginning chose you for salvation through sanctification by the Spirit and belief in the truth… 2 Thess. 2:13 NKJV
The LORD will keep you from all evil; he will keep your life. The LORD will keep your going out and your coming in from this time forth and forevermore. Ps 121:7, 8. ESV
“I will ransom them from the power of the grave; I will redeem them from death.” Hos. 13:14 NKJV
You can take this to the bank because God never breaks a promise:
“My covenant I will not violate, nor will I alter the utterance of My lips.” Ps. 89:34 NASB
Furthermore, God adds bonuses!
For He will give His angels [especial] charge over you to accompany and defend and preserve you in all your ways [of obedience and service]. Ps. 91:11 AMP
That includes the presence of His Son as well:
My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me. And I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; neither shall anyone snatch them out of My hand. Jn 10:27, 28. NKJV
“And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.” Mt. 28:20 ESV
Finally, God also fills us with the Holy Spirit!
And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Comforter (Counselor, Helper, Intercessor, Advocate, Strengthener, and Standby), that He may remain with you forever – The Spirit of Truth…you know and recognize Him, for He lives with you [constantly] and will be in you. Jn. 14:16, 17. AMP
So, when you enter into a relationship with God, what is it that is within you?
For behold, the kingdom of God is within you [in your hearts] and among you [surrounding you]. Lk 17:21 AMP
How can you ever be lonely again once you link hearts with your Creator? You have become a heavenly house – filled with promises of love, the presence of God, Christ, the Holy Spirit, and the angels – walking calmly in the love and protection of God forever.
And guess what? You cannot be filled with those things without radiating it outwards all about you. You will become a magnet for love and friends; and loved ones old and new will come out of the woodwork to abound in your life – just to be with the walking promise that you are…
Good night and God bless.